Comments on: The post I’ll never need to post, by Jessica Horton nee Disteldorf http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/ The Journey Continues... Tue, 05 Oct 2010 07:12:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Anika http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/comment-page-2/#comment-6721 Anika Tue, 05 Oct 2010 07:12:58 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/#comment-6721 Wow...I came on the internet hoping to find something close to answers..I've been suffering serious panic attacks lately due to just about everything. I think we all struggle to come to terms with mortality, I know I do, and I am in great health physically. I feel completely humbled by reading how Jess just didn't stop doing things. I can't even find words that sound classy enough to write on here. I am doing some serious soul-searching and I could not hope for anything more right now than to have the absolute inner-peace, tranquility, and 'that's how it is!' nature she seems to have. My best friend took me to the beach yesterday to give me a 'day off' from anxiety. I was talking to her about the meaning of life, what comes after 'life' as we know it, and the fact that I hate not having answers. I guess it doesn't matter, because whatever has brought me to this website in my time of emotional need, has made me feel better. One thing my friend said to me yesterday was "but, we don't need to know what comes next. Some things we're just not meant to know". We lost Poppy (grandad) due to cancer in 2007. I never can shake how accepting and grateful for everything that exhisted he simply was. Nature can do some cruel things to us, but unfortunately nature doesn't equip us to accept them, which is a strange irony. Not all of us anyway. You wonderful woman Jess, I wish the entire world could live with such reassurance and BEAUTY. Clearly your faith that everything will work itself out is something most of the world needs. To just live. I feel like I am just glowing with love for someone I have never even met xoxoxoxoxox Wow…I came on the internet hoping to find something close to answers..I’ve been suffering serious panic attacks lately due to just about everything. I think we all struggle to come to terms with mortality, I know I do, and I am in great health physically. I feel completely humbled by reading how Jess just didn’t stop doing things. I can’t even find words that sound classy enough to write on here. I am doing some serious soul-searching and I could not hope for anything more right now than to have the absolute inner-peace, tranquility, and ‘that’s how it is!’ nature she seems to have. My best friend took me to the beach yesterday to give me a ‘day off’ from anxiety. I was talking to her about the meaning of life, what comes after ‘life’ as we know it, and the fact that I hate not having answers. I guess it doesn’t matter, because whatever has brought me to this website in my time of emotional need, has made me feel better. One thing my friend said to me yesterday was “but, we don’t need to know what comes next. Some things we’re just not meant to know”. We lost Poppy (grandad) due to cancer in 2007. I never can shake how accepting and grateful for everything that exhisted he simply was. Nature can do some cruel things to us, but unfortunately nature doesn’t equip us to accept them, which is a strange irony. Not all of us anyway. You wonderful woman Jess, I wish the entire world could live with such reassurance and BEAUTY. Clearly your faith that everything will work itself out is something most of the world needs. To just live. I feel like I am just glowing with love for someone I have never even met xoxoxoxoxox

]]> By: Jennifer Sciberras http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/comment-page-2/#comment-2226 Jennifer Sciberras Sat, 27 Dec 2008 02:13:32 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/#comment-2226 I'd like to leave a message for Amy..... Among the other special, wonderful people Jess was fortunate enough to have in her life, I think you are just so amazing. Jess was lucky to have you as her best friend and if I ever had a best mate half as varing and compassionate as you, I think myself to be the most fortunate person in the world. I was particularly touched watching your farewell on Australian Story. I have a sense that the adventures you sought and experienced were shared by Jess as well, in the sense that you were doing this FOR her, but also in the sense that our loved ones only get closer to us after they pass away. I truly believe this. I’d like to leave a message for Amy….. Among the other special, wonderful people Jess was fortunate enough to have in her life, I think you are just so amazing. Jess was lucky to have you as her best friend and if I ever had a best mate half as varing and compassionate as you, I think myself to be the most fortunate person in the world. I was particularly touched watching your farewell on Australian Story. I have a sense that the adventures you sought and experienced were shared by Jess as well, in the sense that you were doing this FOR her, but also in the sense that our loved ones only get closer to us after they pass away. I truly believe this.

]]> By: Toria McCarthy http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/comment-page-2/#comment-812 Toria McCarthy Sat, 09 Aug 2008 12:42:48 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/#comment-812 Hi Jason, and Jess' Mama, Daddy and extended family, I've just reread the beautiful and brave Jess' blogs. I hope & pray that you are all getting through your grief in a healthy way. Thank you Jason for sharing the final blog from Jess. Her openess and ability to write her thoughts so eloquently will help and heal many people for a long time to come. I wish you all well on the remainder of your individual journeys, love Toria Hi Jason, and Jess’ Mama, Daddy and extended family,
I’ve just reread the beautiful and brave Jess’ blogs. I hope & pray that you are all getting through your grief in a healthy way. Thank you Jason for sharing the final blog from Jess. Her openess and ability to write her thoughts so eloquently will help and heal many people for a long time to come.
I wish you all well on the remainder of your individual journeys,
love Toria

]]> By: Jacinta http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/comment-page-2/#comment-673 Jacinta Tue, 15 Jul 2008 21:52:56 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/#comment-673 Hi Jason, We've never met or anything but around this time last year I made a documentary in which I interviewed the beautiful Jessica. I'm not sure if you've seen it or if she showed it to you but it was titled "Hair". Well I've entered it into film festivals and finally it is up for 4 nominations and there will a public screening of the nominations including "Hair". I would like to invite yourself and your daughter to the public screenings which is held on Saturday 2nd August at the Regent Cinemas at 4pm. (There are 2 sessions, 2pm and 4pm). Tickets are $8 and will go on sale after this Friday (18/07) from the Regent or from the website http://www.pftc.com.au/pftc/festivals/content.asp?pageid=71&top= Please also extend my invitations to Jessica's parents as I don't know how to get in touch with them. If you require anymore information please send me an email anytime. Thank you very much. Jacinta Hi Jason,

We’ve never met or anything but around this time last year I made a documentary in which I interviewed the beautiful Jessica. I’m not sure if you’ve seen it or if she showed it to you but it was titled “Hair”. Well I’ve entered it into film festivals and finally it is up for 4 nominations and there will a public screening of the nominations including “Hair”. I would like to invite yourself and your daughter to the public screenings which is held on Saturday 2nd August at the Regent Cinemas at 4pm. (There are 2 sessions, 2pm and 4pm). Tickets are $8 and will go on sale after this Friday (18/07) from the Regent or from the website
http://www.pftc.com.au/pftc/festivals/content.asp?pageid=71&top=
Please also extend my invitations to Jessica’s parents as I don’t know how to get in touch with them.
If you require anymore information please send me an email anytime.

Thank you very much.
Jacinta

]]> By: Steve Deans http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/comment-page-2/#comment-382 Steve Deans Wed, 07 May 2008 02:16:51 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/#comment-382 To Jess's Loving Family and Friends, Having watched Jess's inspiring, beautiful life and sad passing portrayed on Australian Story last month I have only just gathered the courage to write to express my deepest sympathies for you. This website alone stands as a testament to all those hearts Jess managed to touch and will continue to touch even after her passing. I especially wanted to express my gratitude to Jess for providing this forum as it provides those of us who have lost someone close to gain strength from her strength. My sister lost her husband to cancer about four years ago at the age of 30 and I remember their distress at the lack of an appropriate support group or other forum to talk about the emotional issues associated with terminal illnesses. They made the mistake of going to a cancer support group made up of non-terminally ill cancer patients who, at learning of my bother-in-laws multiple tumours throughout his body - including 2 inoperable brain tumours, could not offer the level of support that my sister and her husband needed. For Jess to have courage to create such a unique forum such as this, I give thanks. In my family we have a bit of a tradition, when we say goodbye to loved ones after they have stopped by for a visit, we each wave tissues above our heads until we are both out of sight. Our neighbours probably think this is a bit strange, but personally I like to think that even though they are out of sight they are still waving those tissues, thinking about us. To Jason, Emily and your family and friends, wave those tissues high as Jess is not out of sight, she lives on in all of us. Kindest regards, Steve & Family To Jess’s Loving Family and Friends,

Having watched Jess’s inspiring, beautiful life and sad passing portrayed on Australian Story last month I have only just gathered the courage to write to express my deepest sympathies for you. This website alone stands as a testament to all those hearts Jess managed to touch and will continue to touch even after her passing.

I especially wanted to express my gratitude to Jess for providing this forum as it provides those of us who have lost someone close to gain strength from her strength. My sister lost her husband to cancer about four years ago at the age of 30 and I remember their distress at the lack of an appropriate support group or other forum to talk about the emotional issues associated with terminal illnesses. They made the mistake of going to a cancer support group made up of non-terminally ill cancer patients who, at learning of my bother-in-laws multiple tumours throughout his body – including 2 inoperable brain tumours, could not offer the level of support that my sister and her husband needed. For Jess to have courage to create such a unique forum such as this, I give thanks.

In my family we have a bit of a tradition, when we say goodbye to loved ones after they have stopped by for a visit, we each wave tissues above our heads until we are both out of sight. Our neighbours probably think this is a bit strange, but personally I like to think that even though they are out of sight they are still waving those tissues, thinking about us. To Jason, Emily and your family and friends, wave those tissues high as Jess is not out of sight, she lives on in all of us.

Kindest regards,
Steve & Family

]]> By: Yola Davies http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/comment-page-2/#comment-372 Yola Davies Tue, 06 May 2008 05:58:13 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/#comment-372 my god. what a glorious ,corageous, woman. Jess has taught so many to be grateful for their lives. i cannot even think of anything else to say. i am gobsmacked! what a woman! my god. what a glorious ,corageous, woman. Jess has taught so many to be grateful for their lives. i cannot even think of anything else to say. i am gobsmacked! what a woman!

]]> By: sarah http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/comment-page-2/#comment-344 sarah Sun, 04 May 2008 14:22:23 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/#comment-344 to jason and family, i read jessis story on thats life a while ago and im sorry that her life endd so soon. such a loveing person taken out of this world to young. im 23 with a 2yr child and if i can bring half as much love into the world that she has i will be happy. im so so sorry for your loss. reaing aout you wife/ daughter has made me re think life and how quickly it can ened and just take it one day at a time. sorry once again. be safeand god bless Sarah to jason and family,

i read jessis story on thats life a while ago and im sorry that her life endd so soon. such a loveing person taken out of this world to young. im 23 with a 2yr child and if i can bring half as much love into the world that she has i will be happy. im so so sorry for your loss. reaing aout you wife/ daughter has made me re think life and how quickly it can ened and just take it one day at a time. sorry once again.

be safeand god bless

Sarah

]]> By: Dimruthien http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/comment-page-2/#comment-294 Dimruthien Thu, 01 May 2008 02:46:57 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/#comment-294 I am also an avid reader of That's Life, and I'm glad I am. It led me here. I'm a writer, and I have such a verbose vocabulary, but I cannot find the words to express how I feel. I cannot find any words to offer strength to Jessica's family and her husband. I wish I could, but all I can offer is an Internet *hugs* and good wishes from all the way up here in Darwin. Jess, you were a brave and inspirational person. You will never be forgotten. You touched far too many lives to ever be forgotten. With love, compassion and hope, Dimruthien (Darwin, NT) I am also an avid reader of That’s Life, and I’m glad I am. It led me here.

I’m a writer, and I have such a verbose vocabulary, but I cannot find the words to express how I feel. I cannot find any words to offer strength to Jessica’s family and her husband. I wish I could, but all I can offer is an Internet *hugs* and good wishes from all the way up here in Darwin.

Jess, you were a brave and inspirational person. You will never be forgotten. You touched far too many lives to ever be forgotten.

With love, compassion and hope,
Dimruthien
(Darwin, NT)

]]> By: Elizabeth SImon http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/comment-page-2/#comment-293 Elizabeth SImon Thu, 01 May 2008 00:00:20 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/#comment-293 As one who is also dying from lung cancer although somewhat older at 56, I would like to honour Jess - her loving light spread over all her friends, family and anyone who heard of her or came into contact with her. Life is such a gift - and I love how she lived it fully and lovingly. That, indeed, is what it is all about. Lest we forget. Liz, Brisbane, QLD As one who is also dying from lung cancer although somewhat older at 56, I would like to honour Jess – her loving light spread over all her friends, family and anyone who heard of her or came into contact with her.
Life is such a gift – and I love how she lived it fully and lovingly. That, indeed, is what it is all about.
Lest we forget.
Liz, Brisbane, QLD

]]> By: Sam http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/comment-page-2/#comment-288 Sam Tue, 29 Apr 2008 00:53:19 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/#comment-288 I too read Jessica's story in Thats Life magazine; something I read every week. Of all the stories I read in there, few stick in my head; but even many weeks after the story was published, I still find myself thinking of her. Although I never knew Jess, she seems one of the most remarkable, caring and brave people I have ever known about, and her husband and family must miss her greatly. Although it may seem cliched, you were all lucky to have had a person like Jess in your lives, even if it was only for a short amount of time. I know how much she has touched my life, and I never even met her. I know you have probably received many comments like this, but I hope Jason and Jess' family all know that our thoughts and prayers are with them; a person as extraordinary as Jess could never truly be forgotten. Sam, Canberra ACT XOXOX I too read Jessica’s story in Thats Life magazine; something I read every week. Of all the stories I read in there, few stick in my head; but even many weeks after the story was published, I still find myself thinking of her.
Although I never knew Jess, she seems one of the most remarkable, caring and brave people I have ever known about, and her husband and family must miss her greatly. Although it may seem cliched, you were all lucky to have had a person like Jess in your lives, even if it was only for a short amount of time. I know how much she has touched my life, and I never even met her.
I know you have probably received many comments like this, but I hope Jason and Jess’ family all know that our thoughts and prayers are with them; a person as extraordinary as Jess could never truly be forgotten.
Sam, Canberra ACT
XOXOX

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