Where should you request your remains to be left?
This is a difficult question as it has both legal and moral implications.
I haven’t yet worked out where I want my remains to be left, but I have had to deal with my late wife’s requests.
She asked me to divide her ashes into 4 parts and leave them in 4 specific places. Her objective was two-fold – to create places where people who knew her could visit to remember her, and to send me on a quest to places she wanted to take me but didn’t get the chance to, and where I would come to know her better.
So far I have carried out her wishes and I will complete them over the next few months. However, her wishes have caused me to be conflicted – some of the locations were not legal places. We both knew this would be the case because we had some legal advice while she was alive.
I didn’t see any moral issues at the time, but now that I have begun to carry out her wishes I’m starting to understand that there are some.
The first place I left some of her ashes was in a place that it was not legal to do so – the law didn’t bother me but I did realize a moral problem as I did it, if someone discovers human remains then a police investigation will be launched and time and resources will be unnecessarily consumed by the authorities.
I went ahead knowing what the moral and legal implications were.
I don’t have an answer for the question that applies to others, but I felt it was important to raise the question so that those of you grappling with similar questions will know you’re not alone.
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