Comments for Dying For Beginners http://www.dyingforbeginners.com The Journey Continues... Tue, 06 Jan 2009 02:11:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.2 Comment on Brave Battle With Cancer? by Jeff Dennis http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-2227 Jeff Dennis Sat, 27 Dec 2008 03:22:55 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-2227 Jason, I`ve just watched the rerun of the Australian Story about Jess.I lost my only child Tess with a similar cancer [small round cell]in 2002 at the same age of 24yrs[01-01-78 to 16-06-02],she too went to the Mater Hospital in Brisbane.Tess & Jess shared a lot of things in common like wanting to travel etc,some of the pictures, expressions and word`s of Jess reminded me so much of Tess.Being her carer I know better than most what you went through especially in the final day`s,only Tess died at her home but also with dignity.Life will never be the same again for either of us,all we can do is live the life`s they would want us too. Jason,
I`ve just watched the rerun of the Australian Story about Jess.I lost my only child Tess with a similar cancer [small round cell]in 2002 at the same age of 24yrs[01-01-78 to 16-06-02],she too went to the Mater Hospital in Brisbane.Tess & Jess shared a lot of things in common like wanting to travel etc,some of the pictures, expressions and word`s of Jess reminded me so much of Tess.Being her carer I know better than most what you went through especially in the final day`s,only Tess died at her home but also with dignity.Life will never be the same again for either of us,all we can do is live the life`s they would want us too.

]]> Comment on The post I’ll never need to post, by Jessica Horton nee Disteldorf by Jennifer Sciberras http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/#comment-2226 Jennifer Sciberras Sat, 27 Dec 2008 02:13:32 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/#comment-2226 I'd like to leave a message for Amy..... Among the other special, wonderful people Jess was fortunate enough to have in her life, I think you are just so amazing. Jess was lucky to have you as her best friend and if I ever had a best mate half as varing and compassionate as you, I think myself to be the most fortunate person in the world. I was particularly touched watching your farewell on Australian Story. I have a sense that the adventures you sought and experienced were shared by Jess as well, in the sense that you were doing this FOR her, but also in the sense that our loved ones only get closer to us after they pass away. I truly believe this. I’d like to leave a message for Amy….. Among the other special, wonderful people Jess was fortunate enough to have in her life, I think you are just so amazing. Jess was lucky to have you as her best friend and if I ever had a best mate half as varing and compassionate as you, I think myself to be the most fortunate person in the world. I was particularly touched watching your farewell on Australian Story. I have a sense that the adventures you sought and experienced were shared by Jess as well, in the sense that you were doing this FOR her, but also in the sense that our loved ones only get closer to us after they pass away. I truly believe this.

]]> Comment on Brave Battle With Cancer? by Howard D http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-1175 Howard D Sat, 04 Oct 2008 02:21:13 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-1175 I've read all that precedes. Thank you for the insights. I will do my best to advance Jason's hope that 'dignity' catches on. May I ask the board's opinion as to whether 'courage' and 'strong' fit broadly into the same category as 'brave'? I’ve read all that precedes. Thank you for the insights. I will do my best to advance Jason’s hope that ‘dignity’ catches on.

May I ask the board’s opinion as to whether ‘courage’ and ’strong’ fit broadly into the same category as ‘brave’?

]]> Comment on Brave Battle With Cancer? by Mike T http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-1145 Mike T Fri, 26 Sep 2008 01:23:38 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-1145 Dignity. That works. Dignity. That works.

]]> Comment on Brave Battle With Cancer? by Lorraine http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-1144 Lorraine Fri, 26 Sep 2008 00:08:30 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-1144 Jason, thank you for opening this discussion. I do think that my son Silas was extremely brave, but felt that was who he was in life. As a journalism major, he asked the tough questions to political candidates, and told his fellow student Amy to "be brave" as she ventured forward. But I just don't like that there is no right word for people who don't survive their cancer. Dignity is a good word ~ in fact, when my friend Marina, who is a nurse and became close to Silas as she helped him through medical issues at home, spoke at Sy's "celebration of life" ceremony, she said that Silas did the ultimate thing we all strive to do, "he died with dignity." Your Jessica is so beautiful ~ what a gift to have had her in your life. It just sucks to have these wonderful people taken by this horrible disease. I won't tell you to "be brave", people tell me that I am stronger than I think, and I feel like it is a bad joke..... But take care, as best as you can Jason,
thank you for opening this discussion. I do think that my son Silas was extremely brave, but felt that was who he was in life. As a journalism major, he asked the tough questions to political candidates, and told his fellow student Amy to “be brave” as she ventured forward. But I just don’t like that there is no right word for people who don’t survive their cancer. Dignity is a good word ~ in fact, when my friend Marina, who is a nurse and became close to Silas as she helped him through medical issues at home, spoke at Sy’s “celebration of life” ceremony, she said that Silas did the ultimate thing we all strive to do, “he died with dignity.” Your Jessica is so beautiful ~ what a gift to have had her in your life. It just sucks to have these wonderful people taken by this horrible disease. I won’t tell you to “be brave”, people tell me that I am stronger than I think, and I feel like it is a bad joke….. But take care, as best as you can

]]> Comment on Brave Battle With Cancer? by Jason http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-1135 Jason Tue, 23 Sep 2008 10:17:01 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-1135 Charles, you are to be congratulated for standing up to them at what is a very difficult time. It would have been understandable if you gave up - but you didn't. Hopefully some of the media's mis-use of death will be improved as more people like you make a difference. Charles, you are to be congratulated for standing up to them at what is a very difficult time. It would have been understandable if you gave up - but you didn’t. Hopefully some of the media’s mis-use of death will be improved as more people like you make a difference.

]]> Comment on Brave Battle With Cancer? by Charles Scott http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-1130 Charles Scott Tue, 23 Sep 2008 08:57:58 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-1130 I am glad you have laid to rest this old cliché. However I came across a problem with my local newspaper which refused to allow my wife's death notice to mention the word cancer. I would be permitted to say she died after a long illness but not to mention the word cancer. Their reason was they were a family newspaper and the death notices could be read by children. They changed their mind pretty quickly when I threatened them with exposure of this censorship in the national papers. Also my wife died the day following Pavarotti which in the self same newspapre was announced as "after a long battle with cancer" I am glad you have laid to rest this old cliché. However I came across a problem with my local newspaper which refused to allow my wife’s death notice to mention the word cancer. I would be permitted to say she died after a long illness but not to mention the word cancer. Their reason was they were a family newspaper and the death notices could be read by children. They changed their mind pretty quickly when I threatened them with exposure of this censorship in the national papers. Also my wife died the day following Pavarotti which in the self same newspapre was announced as “after a long battle with cancer”

]]> Comment on Brave Battle With Cancer? by Angela C http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-1128 Angela C Tue, 23 Sep 2008 08:03:50 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-1128 Dignity. Very appropriate - for both of you. Dignity. Very appropriate - for both of you.

]]> Comment on Brave Battle With Cancer? by Chris Lewis http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-1127 Chris Lewis Tue, 23 Sep 2008 07:48:35 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/brave-battle-with-cancer/#comment-1127 Jason, I amended the entry related to Jessica on my blog as you requested. It now reads "who died as she lived facing her illness and living her life to the end with dignity." I hope this reflects Jessica's and your wishes a little more accurately. Best wishes. Jason, I amended the entry related to Jessica on my blog as you requested. It now reads “who died as she lived facing her illness and living her life to the end with dignity.”

I hope this reflects Jessica’s and your wishes a little more accurately.

Best wishes.

]]> Comment on The post I’ll never need to post, by Jessica Horton nee Disteldorf by Toria McCarthy http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/#comment-812 Toria McCarthy Sat, 09 Aug 2008 12:42:48 +0000 http://www.dyingforbeginners.com/the-post-ill-never-need-to-post-by-jessica-horton-nee-disteldorf/#comment-812 Hi Jason, and Jess' Mama, Daddy and extended family, I've just reread the beautiful and brave Jess' blogs. I hope & pray that you are all getting through your grief in a healthy way. Thank you Jason for sharing the final blog from Jess. Her openess and ability to write her thoughts so eloquently will help and heal many people for a long time to come. I wish you all well on the remainder of your individual journeys, love Toria Hi Jason, and Jess’ Mama, Daddy and extended family,
I’ve just reread the beautiful and brave Jess’ blogs. I hope & pray that you are all getting through your grief in a healthy way. Thank you Jason for sharing the final blog from Jess. Her openess and ability to write her thoughts so eloquently will help and heal many people for a long time to come.
I wish you all well on the remainder of your individual journeys,
love Toria

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