Not all of us are going to grow old and grey. Some of us, for whatever reason, are going to die in our prime.
But we need to remember that everyone is dying – we just get to die young and beautiful!
Whatever the reason, it can be very hard to come to terms with the fact that we are dying young.
I am not a counsellor. I have no experience in the grief counselling area. I have one qualification, and one only – I’m 24 and I have incurable cancer. I will die well before my 30th birthday.
I know I’m not alone in this situation. But I don’t know where all the others are. And in my circle of family and friends I certainly am the only one in this situation.
Which makes it almost impossible to talk about. If I want to talk about my death, it saddens others. There are places to go and people to talk to if I want to talk about the practical side of death and dying, but what about the emotional stuff?
So I’m looking for those fellow beginner dyers to talk about the emotional side of dying young. Again, I have no qualifications except a desire to talk, and a desire to listen to others. A desire to share.
But I’m also looking for anyone who has been affected by death – maybe you’re a carer, maybe you’re a friend. Maybe you’ve lost someone close and need to talk about it. Maybe you have been diagnosed with something life-threatening, and while the possibility of dying is low, you’re still scared and want to talk about it. You are all welcome.
So how does this site work? The main part of the site is the Forum – a place to share, to talk, to listen, to discusss. A place for a wide range of topics – from “What do I say to people?” to “What should I wear in my coffin?” It’s a support group for us all; a place to go to talk about anything we’re carrying in our hearts.
There is also room to review things that may or may not have helped you on your journey – books, courses, retreats, alternative therapies. Please submit reviews on anything that may or may not have helped you and let’s open up the discussion.
There is also a section on me – who I am, what my story is. I’ve also been keeping a blog for the past two years so the archive is there too. I will continue to maintain a personal blog, but I will also write articles for the main site which are up for discussion. If you have an article or something to say, please do submit it.
Otherwise, have a look around, use the parts that help you, ignore those that don’t, and drop me a line with any comments or improvements you might have.
I hope this site helps you through a very difficult journey, and hopefully provides a bit of friendship, peace, acceptance and maybe even a laugh or two.
(27 March 1983 - 23 March 2008)